The Silence Fillers

There are phrases that hit to the very core of my existence. I heard one of those phrases today uttered to another survivor. “God doesn’t give us more than we can handle.” Excuse me while I go and vomit. This phrase has no value other than to fill the awkward silence. The silence when someone…… Continue reading The Silence Fillers

Come Eat With Me Series: Part One

I just got back from an Indianapolis American Cancer Society Guild Meeting for the Discovery Ball.  How fitting is that?  Those women are and will continue to be “my people” they freaking just get it, they get me, and most importantly; they understand cancer.  On that committee most of those women have either been touched…… Continue reading Come Eat With Me Series: Part One

Live in the Details

There is no better place to be. I don’t live for the big events anymore. I live in the details. When I went to the grocery store this morning it was raining, just a normal January drizzle. I danced in the rain, skipped is more like it, jumped in a puddle, and looked up while…… Continue reading Live in the Details

A Language You Never Expected to Learn

Whenever someone thinks of learning a second language, I am sure the thought of classes, apps, or books come to mind. I always wanted to learn further in French from high school or take up Spanish. The hand I was dealt though was both feet in the fire-fury to learn the cancer language. It’s a…… Continue reading A Language You Never Expected to Learn

Stupidity or Brilliance

It was below zero this past weekend in Indiana. You know what I did? Took my two daughters sledding. Stupidity, maybe; Brilliance, I think so. We could have stayed holed up in our house or I could teach them how to dress in layers and hand them toe warmers along with hand warmers to go…… Continue reading Stupidity or Brilliance

The Bad Charades Game

If you ever want to know what chemo brain is like then just picture yourself trying to play a terrible game of charades where absolutely no one gets you. Lately I have been struggling to find words I never would have struggled with prior to cancer. At times I can laugh it off and say,…… Continue reading The Bad Charades Game

That Instant Connection

It’s like a snap of a finger for me, likely most people who have had cancer feel the same as me, you feel an instant connection with any survivor. It just clicks and it doesn’t matter your age, walk of life, religion, or gender. If you think about it, the cancer community kind of has…… Continue reading That Instant Connection