The Silence Fillers

There are phrases that hit to the very core of my existence. I heard one of those phrases today uttered to another survivor. “God doesn’t give us more than we can handle.” Excuse me while I go and vomit. This phrase has no value other than to fill the awkward silence. The silence when someone…… Continue reading The Silence Fillers

There Doesn’t Have to be a Reason… Stop

This past week one phrase has come up a lot in my conversations, “everything happens for a reason.”  Insert hard eye roll here.  Stop it, nope, nada, hell no, swish that wine around in your mouth and chug it.  I used to say this a lot prior to cancer.  Now I wouldn’t say it if…… Continue reading There Doesn’t Have to be a Reason… Stop

Finding The Middle

A number of writers have written about John McCain and their pieces of what not to say to someone who has cancer.  My opinion on the matter is that you need to find the middle ground.  Each person is different and should be treated as such.  Some people embrace the fighter spirit, clothe themselves in…… Continue reading Finding The Middle